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Dosto shadi ka word sunte hi logo ke mann me laddu footane lagte hai kaha jata hai shadi aisa laddu hai jisse khane wale bhi pachtaye aur na khane wale bhi pachtaye.
Aaj me aap se Aziz Ansari ki book ( Modern Romance ) se shadi aur online dating ke bare me hi baat karunga to chaliye shuru karte hai.
Dosto kuch generation pehle romance kuch alag tarah se hota tha uske kuch reasons the logo ke paas mobile phones bhi nahi the aur public transport tak bhi kam access tha isliye jyada tar logo pyar apne aas paas hi hota tha unke shehar me unke pados me ya fir unki hi building me.
In fact 1932 me america ke shehar Philadelphia me 6 me se har 1 insaan ne apni hi colony me hi shadi ki thi aur 8 me se 1 ne apni hi building me shadi ki thi aisi koi research india me to hui nahi lekin agar hoti to am sure aap ko isse milte julte hi numbers milte.
Agar ise hum aaj 2019 se compare kare to aap sochiye aise kitne logo ko aap jante ho jo sirf isliye mile kyun ki woh aas paas rehte the shayad jyada nahi Airplanes, Trains aur Smartphones ki wajah se ab log dusre cities dusre states yaha tak ke dusre countries me bhi serious relationship bana rahe hai.
Iske alawa pehle log young age me shadi kar lete the ya yeh kahe ki unki shadi karwa di jati thi jisme unke parents ka bada role hota tha.
In fact 1971 me india ki shadi ki average umar 17 saal hua karti thi jo aaj 26 saal hai aur ladkiyon ko to apni education puri karne ka bhi mauka nahi mil pata tha unke education bich me chhuduwa kar unki shadi kar di jati thi aur unhe ek nai zindagi dhakel diya jata tha us age me jab unke interest aur aur personality puri tarah se develop hui nahi hoti thi aur unka husband bhi unke ma baap ki pasand hua karta tha aur ma baap ki pasand matlab aisa ladka jiski respectable job ho aur achi reputation ho.
To yah to hui kuch genration pehle hone wali shadiyon ki baat ab sawal yeh hai ki log shadi kyun karte hai ( Why Do People Get Married.? )
Pehle log isliye shadi karte the kyunki ma baap aur society pressure hota tha ki baccha ya bacchi itne bade ho gaye hai aur abhi tak aap ne unki shadi nahi ki auther ne jab kuch buzurgon se pucha ki unhone shadi kyun ki to mostly mardo se yeh jawab mila ki woh ek achi ladki thi isliye mene usse shadi kar li aur mahilao se yeh jawab mila ki unke husband ke paas ek secure job thi isliye unhone shadi ki.
Us time ladkiyan aisa husband chahti thi jo kama kar laye aur family ko support kar sake aur ladko ko aisi wife chahiye thi jo unke paal sake aur ghar sambhal sake to in clearly define gender roles ke sath shadi ke bandhan me bandhte the.
Ab aaj ke time me logo ke paas shadi ke liye aur bhi deep reasons hai aaj ke time me hum sirf isliye shadi nahi karte ki woh khana paka sakti hai aur bacche sambhal sakti hai ya us ladke ke paas achi job hai.
Balki hum imagine karte hai hamari batter half ya hamara soulmate jab aap kisi modern new married couple se puchoge ki unhone ek dusre ko kyun choose kya to aap ko yeh jawab mil sakta hai ki yeh meri best friend hai isliye ya inhone mujhe ek batter person banaya isliye.
To ab log society ke pressure se shadi nahi karte woh isliye shadi karte hai ki unhe koi mil gaya hai jo unhe complete feel karwata hai jisse woh pyar karte hai aur uske sath bhi gender roles bhi badal chuke hai.
Mahilaye chahe to woh job aur study karne ke liye azad hai aur unhe ab aisa husband dhundne ki zaroorat nahi hai jo unhe kama kar khilaye aur agar husband agar chahe to ghar sambhal sakte hai.
Pyar ke liye shadi karna ek bahut hi acha idea lagta hai lekin yeh ek insaan par bahut pressure daal deta hai.
Ab hum expect karte hai ki hamara partner hamari sari zaroorat ko pura kare aur woh zaroorate kya hai hum expect hai hamara partner.
- Familiar ho.
- Reliable ho .
- Entertaining ho.
- Chizo ko Interesting banane wala ho.
Aap apna perfect partner imagine karo aap shayad chahte ho aap ka partner
- Intelligent ho.
- Funny ho.
- Best friends ban sake.
- Aur best sex partner bhi.
Yeh sunne me to acha lagta hai lekin ek insaan itna sab expect karna bahut jyada hai aur special tab jab woh bhi aap se yahi sab chize expect kar rahe ho.
Aur ab sahi partner dhundne ki proces bhi pehle ke mukable bahut complicated ho gai hai.
Pehle tina aur rahul collage me milte the kuch hi saalo baad woh shadi kar lete the.
Pehle log security and stability ko ko dekhte the aur society ke pressure me shadi kar lete the to easy tha shadi karna.
Lekin ab hum shadi to se bahut jyada expect karte hai to sahi partner dhundna zara mushkil ho gaya hai.
Aur uske upar internet ki wajah se ab hamara access bahut wide range aur partners tak hai.
Isliye partners dhundna bahut jyada complicated ho chuka hai.
Tinder jaise app aapko hazaro singles tak instantly access de deti hai pehle jo limitation thi location age aur cast ki woh modern romance ki is duniya me kam hoti ja rahi hai.
Iske fayde to hai lekin is wajah se kisi ek partner par sattel hona zara mushkil ho chuka hai.
Kyunki aap humesha sochte ho ki isse batter koi aur ho aur is search me aap jitna chaho utna time le sakte ho kyunki ab aap par society ka pressure nahi hai.
Online dating aap ko frustrating lag sakti hai ya aap ko shayad koi result na mile lekin agar aap haar na maano to online dating bahut zabardast chiz hai agar aap iska sahi istemal karo to.
Isliye ab me aap ko ( Modern Romance ) is book se batane wala hun online dating ke 4 tips jisse online dating ki complicated process aap ke liye aasan ho jayegi aur hopefully aap ko ek partner bhi mil jayega.
1 Tips:-
Don't Spend Too Much Time Online:-
Sabse pehli baat ye ki aap ko bahut jyada time online spend nahi karna chahiye aur dusri baat yeh ki dating sites ko sirf logo se connect karne ke liye istemal karo aur fir bahar jao aur unse actual me milo.
Abhi yeh ho raha hai log online dating site istemal to kar rahe hai connect bhi kar rahe hai lekin unse milte nahi jyada tar log jo online dating try karte hai woh online me hi jyada time nikal dete hai bajaye logo se real me milne ke.
For Example:-
25 saal ka kevin rozana ghanto bitata hai tinder app par lekin woh jin ladkiyo se baat karta hai unse kabhi milta nahi woh sirf online chat karta rehta hai aur pareshan bhi rehta hai apne single hone par.
Aap ko is jaal me nahi fasna hai tinder ya uski jaisi app istemal karo to logo se personally milne ke liye aur aap sab ko mera solution hai agar aap kisi ko online date kar rahe ho lekin woh milne ke liye tayar nahi hai woh aap se na milne ke bahane banata hai ya banati hai to usse baat karne me hume time waste nahi karna chahiye.
2 Tips:-
Use Good Language:-
Yeh bhi yaad rakhna chahiye ki jin logo se aap chat kar rahe ho woh real hai hume yeh nahi samjhna chahiye ki dating app secure jagah hai kisi ko bhi kuch bhi bol dene ke liye.
Har ek profile aap jo dekh rahe ho uske piche asli insaan hai to aisi baate jo aap stranger ko real life me nahi bol sakte aap ko waha bhi nahi kehna chahiye.
Dating apps par logo se is tarah baat karo jaise aap real world me baat karte ho be yourself be polite and be responsible.
Ek aur galti jo log dating sites par karte hai woh hai ek sabko copy paste kar dete hai ek sa message aisa nahi karna chahiye kisi ko bhi kisi ko spaming pasand nahi hoti iski jagah aap aisa insaan dhundo jiske interest aap se match kate ho aur unse baat karo jo aap dono me common ho.
3 Tips:-
Give Time To Understand People:-
Kya kabhi aap date par gaye ho aur aap ko laga hai ki nahi yeh insaan mere liye nahi hai first impression hamesha sahi nahi hota insaan ek complex creature hai kisi ko bhi achi tarah samjhne me zara time lagta hai aur kyun ki aap ke paas endless romantic option availables hai kisi ek insaan par focus karna zara mushkil hai.
Isliye jaldi hi kisi ek insaan par pession use kar dete hai ya hum kahe ki uksa jate hai balki kai baar hum adhe ek ghante me logo ko hamesha ke liye tata bye bye kar dete hai yeh ek rude behaviour hai yeh dekhte hue ki har insaan complicated hota hai.
imagine aap date par ho aur aap ka partner bahut shant aur nervos hai aap ko lag sakta hai ki woh boring aur sharmila ya sharmili hai aur aap next person par move kar jaoge.
Lekin yeh bhi to ho sakta hai first time milna unko zara milna mushkil ho lag raha ho unhe shayad aur time chahiye aap se ghulne milne ke liye apna confident dikhane ke liye to kyun na unhe ek aur chance dena chahiye.
4 Tips:-
Focus On Small Number Of People:-
Aap ko bahut sari dates par nahi jana chahiye agar aap online dating kar rahe ho to aisa time aise logo ko dhundne me lagao jinme aisi qualities ho jo aap me bhi hai aur fir un par hi focus karo.
Tinder par milne wale har insaan ko agar aap date karne ki koshish karoge to aap pareshan ho jaoge online dating ka aisa koi rule nahi hai ki aap ko aap ko bahut sare dates par jana hoga to isliye 10 logo ki jagah 3 aise logo par focus karo jinki qualities aur interest aap se milte ho.
To dosto yeh thi baate shadi aur online dating par Aziz ansari ki book ( Modern Romance ) se i believe ki aap logo ko samajh aa gaya hoga
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